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Alliance of Catholic Marriage Organisations in GB

Teams is proud to work with the other organisations in GB that support Marriage in the Catholic Church.
With Teams, the other partners are
Marriage Care,   Marriage Encounter,   Two in to One Flesh,   Retrouvaille.

The Alliance has a great leaflet (hard copies are available from Regional Couples) click here for it

it looks at
Romance – becoming a couple
Reality – the differences start to appear
Power struggles – practising independence
Finding oneself – independence
Reconcilliation – working through
Mutual respect and love – interdependence
Growing Closer to God: At every step and new stage

the website is www.allianceofcatholicmarriageorganisations.org.uk 

Marriage Encounter  — Website     Leaflet 

Marriage Care – Website     

Retrouvaille  Website   Brochure

Two in one Flesh  Website


Our bi-monthly reflection – for March from Marriage Care

Relationships in Ordinary Time

Lent provides a special opportunity to reflect on the practice of our faith, drawing upon our
journey through Ordinary Time as we look in hope to the season of Eastertide.
Ordinary Time in the life of the Church is far from unimportant, or uninteresting as its name
might suggest. The Latin word “ordinālis” refers to numbers in a series and stems from the
word for “order”. It turns out Ordinary Time represents the ordered life of the Church, neither
in feasting nor in penance, but watchfulness and expectation. We are watchful for encounters
with Jesus and expectant of the transformation He brings: not ‘ordinary’ at all!
Family life is not dissimilar. The day to day ‘ordinary’ stuff of marriage, relationships and
parenting take up most of our time and attention and yet can seem unimportant compared
to what appear to be more significant or poignant moments. The thrill of a wedding day, the
joy of a new-born child, the sadness of a funeral. Everything else just seems ‘ordinary’ in
comparison – mundane, domestic and sometimes downright disappointing!
Marriage and family life can be equally misunderstood. It’s easy to miss the sacred in the
messy, mundane life of family relationships, yet that is where we often find glimpses of divine
love, where we encounter Christ. That should come as no surprise given Jesus spent most of
his life sharing our existence, experiencing the joys and struggles of being human, in a family,
in ‘ordinary’ time. The ‘domestic Church’!
Our support for relationships is often found alongside couples struggling through that
‘ordinary’ time. Many may be struggling with the changing realities that a loving relationship
commits to, yet courageously reaching out for help. Time and time again we witness the
sacred: as ruptures are repaired, the most fractured of relationships hanging by a single
thread are rewoven within the safety net of skilled support, understanding and acceptance.
There is now clear evidence that the quality of our relationships impacts on the physical and
mental health of adults and their children, as well as on the stability of the communities in
which they live. Attending to the “ordinary” stuff of our most intimate relationships matters.
It’s where love is to be found. As Tolstoy reminds us “Where Love Is, There God Is Also”.

Mark Molden, Chief Executive,     Marriage Care
www.marriagecare.org.uk

Our bi-monthly reflection – for February from Retrouvaille

How will your life influence other people 100 years from now?

We have been thinking about this question during this lockdown.
We started by thinking ‘we won’t make any difference’ ‘we won’t be here but our descendants will’, to the photos and ancestry information we leave behind.

We wondered have we left a mark in our work or volunteering efforts.
Could we possibly influence so far ahead?
Are people from 100 years ago influencing us now? Who might they be?

A couple of themes emerged:
The World at large, all the amazing progress in health, education, travel and people, like Gandhi, Martin Luther King, Mandela, St Mother Teresa of Calcutta.
Family: what has come through family generations to our lives today?
Faith, family values, connection, adventure, managing challenge, tragedy, illness, immigration, family rituals and recipes, continued learning, caring for and service to others.

Also some serious challenges, e.g. addictions, angry behaviour to mention a few.

What is clear is that we are influenced by generations past and we will  influence generations to come. That places responsibility as well as delightful possibilities into our lives now. We can ask ourselves; what do we want to leave as our legacy to the future generations? Our intentional gift could be  to work on some changes in our behaviour or attitudes, perhaps get some input into areas of tension or addiction?

Ongoing learning, our ability to decide to change, to look for help we need,  can gives hope and good example to those we live with, and add to our positive legacy of influence.
Pope Francis says, ‘’It is much healthier to be realistic about our limits, defects and imperfections, and to respond to the call to grow together, to bring love to maturity and to strengthen the union, come what may.”
How we as a couple live now will have a profound and long lasting impact on our family that will flow on to future generations.
We think our life as a couple today and the choices we make will influence other people 100 years from now.

Clive & Kathy Jones, Coordinators Retrouvaille England and Wales.

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